After having so many failures with the same pump, I would definitely look for other options. Taco and Grundfos are all that is used around here until we get into commercial or industrial and even then its still Taco mostly, no one likes call backs. What is the pH of the water? Doesn't matter what speed or size pump you have the head will determine how much gpm you will flow. To large a pump and you could create cavitation and burn the pump up. 10 gpm will supply 100,000 btu/hr at 180*. Wet rotor or dry, improper application/size will always use more electricity, especially on cheaper pumps. A 007 on 1 1/4" P-A-P pipe will flow more gpm and use less electricty than say a 0012 or 0014 on a 1" pex header. It always takes more money in the begining to save money long term. Pumping glycol takes 10-30% more energy and flows 10%+ less gpm compared to water. Any of those pumps should not have any worn parts in that short of time ( 3 in 1 year) without defects or highly corrosive liquids present, which glycol is, in open systems to brass and copper. Todays pumps are much better than those of 20 years ago, so cycling them is fine, they don't have to run constantly if they are sized correctly, this is usually a sign of undersized pipe or pump. If you add a filter, especially those spin off types, make sure you calculate the head loss as many will require 2 sizes larger pump. There are some with very low head loss , but at a considerable price. Good luck on finding the root cause.....