We pretty much all run our circs on the boiler constantly, but relays are not that hard to understand, and I will try to explain them. A typical relay for heating will have low voltage wiring on one side of the relay that sends 24 volt AC current out to your thermostat, when the thermostat calls for heat the contacts will make allowing the current to return to the relay, this completes the circuit and the relay pulls pulls in the contacts on the other side of the relay, making the switch on the high voltage side, typically this is 110 volt for the circulator for that zone, simply follow one wire at a time and read the wiring diagram that is typically on the inside cover of the relay, you will understand it if you take it one wire at a time but even the best of us get confused when we hurry and don't take the time to really look at the wiring diagram, don't give up. If you don't have the wiring diagram simply search for that control on the internet and the manufacturers all have the schematics posted there.