Taco or grundfos are very safe and reliable pumps. Even the wills are decent. Running a pump at max in proper conditions is fine, that's what they were meant for. Is debris, lack of flow and long down time that hurts them the most. It doesn't take much rust to form around the impeller to lock it up, and exactly why some controllers cycle pumps during shoulder months.
Calculating total equivalent length of pipe will give you head. Head is not elevation when it comes to pumps. That's why they are technically called circulators. What goes up must come down, equal displacement of fluid. Circulators create a high and low pressure on either side of the impeller and the fluid follows the laws of physics to balance the pressure by movement.
This is exactly why the delta T and delta P pumps are gaining popularity, it takes the guess work or calculating out of the equation for the lazy plumber.
Too much pump erodes metal components, kills efficiency and creates noise. The system or HE has a specific design delta T and GPM flow to meets its performance. Before anyone can help you, a lot more info is needed to calc. Brand wise , taco or grundfos is all I would recommend, and in and open loop system bronze or stainless takes the corrosion factor out.