Quick followup to, again, thank everyone and to say that we're likely going to pursue the exchanger design.
I'm also going to give the pipe network feeding the radiators a good hard look again and make sure there are no loops or other oddities in relation to how our two pumps and the associated feeds and returns interact. I have indications the two pumps aren't serving two isolated loops of radiators (water into one feed with a hose dumps water out of both returns once the system is full)... so I just want to rule out that causing headaches.
HOWEVER, for some freakin' reason, things are working very well right now. I had valved off two radiators that are not bleedable (no bleeder valves and not feasible to install them) and then topped off the furnace sometime last week. I witnessed it blowing water out the top when the pumps stop (as described in my earlier posts) and the bladder ultimately going flat. Nothing had changed, basically.
A few days later, I topped it off again just for good measure. Since that time, it's been working beautifully by all indications. I don't know what changed. The main indicator, though, is that the bladder has stopped going flat for the first time... it gets thinner when the water temp is lower and the pumps are running, but gets quite full (but not rigid) when the water is hot and not circulating. Previously it would be totally flat no matter what within about 24 hours. This has been almost a week now.
The only things that seem different are that those radiators are valved off... but they were between the last two fills and only the most recent time around has seemed to work... and the wood I am burning has changed.
I was initially working from a supply of fireplace-sized, VERY seasoned split oak and some semi-seasoned ash from a tree we had to drop this autumn (been dead a few years). I was going through this wood like crazy, as you'd imagine: very dry, small, split (lots of surface area). So it made hot fires and heated up the furnace fast, but was eating wood like mad.
I got a huge load of enormous, greener oak logs. They, too, are split - but only to the point of making them manageable (and even some of those are a stretch). It's a real workout getting them in the furnace, but it has me down to two loadings a day and I'm no longer seeing overtemp issues. I hope my next load can be unsplit 6-8" logs... working on that.
Again, I don't see how the wood would have a real impact here unless something about the overall heat has an influence.
Keep ya posted!
- Aaron